This past decade, basically my entire time as a 20-something, was full of opportunities, challenges, and revelations (don't worry, I'm not going to summarize it all). I learned a lot about myself, and yet, it's almost a mystery who I may evolve into in the next 10 years.
Some of the challenges I can expect to face in the new decade, the decade that introduces me to my 30's, include the challenge between autonomy and starting a family, the change and shift of my career aspirations, and the task that is maintaining my health with a Type 1 diagnosis (these are just a handful of examples).
And these challenges may change in the next few years, months, even weeks.
In 2010, my only goals were to graduate high school, survive the brutal bullying I was being subjected to, and figure out how I was going to live away from my parents and become independent. That was difficult. And obviously, as time went on, I accomplished some things, failed at others, but the challenges, fears, and worries evolved, as did I.
So I can write out a list of challenges or things I hope to accomplish within the next 10 years, 5 years, or 1 year, but that just isn’t always the most efficient plan.
Yes, it’s great to have goals and dreams. They’re almost crucial for some of us that need that extra motivation each day. But setting a timeline like, “ok, this time next year, I will be pregnant.” By all means, work towards that and stay motivated if it is for the right reasons.
But hold off on chastising yourself for not accomplishing that goal within your made up timeline. I’m a huge believer that things happen for a reason. I believe that for some reason bigger than me and my career goals, I had to move back to Salinas. Maybe God or the Universe wanted me to be with my parents when I had my near-death experience. Maybe I was meant to meet Joey and fall in love. Maybe I’m not supposed to know the answer to any of it.
With all of that being said, my point is, take each day as a blessing, and as a tiny piece of a ginormous puzzle that comprises your life. Sometimes we try to fit puzzle pieces together because we think that they go and we think that will push us closer to the perfect big picture reveal, but in the end, we realize it doesn't work that way.
In reality, we set aside the puzzle piece, and once you have a clearer idea of the bigger picture, you’re able to fit that missing link in exactly where it belongs. And you know what? It's still satisfying and an accomplishment.
To sum it all up:
Work towards them.
Avoid strict timelines for accomplishing those goals.
Be flexible and open to changing course.
Learn from the process.
If you fail, great. If you accomplish something, great.
In the end, live your life and be happy that you’ve come this far.
I wish you all a joyful & prosperous 2020!
Thank you for following along.
-The B of V